Comments on: Dr. Dale makes me feel better about my choices in life http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/01/26/dr-dale-makes-me-feel-better-about-my-choices-in-life/ Off-Ramped and Unbalanced Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:00:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Surendra Kelwala MD http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/01/26/dr-dale-makes-me-feel-better-about-my-choices-in-life/comment-page-1/#comment-186 Surendra Kelwala MD Sun, 23 Sep 2007 15:32:35 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/01/26/dr-dale-makes-me-feel-better-about-my-choices-in-life/#comment-186 Dr. Dale Boesky is a genius. Not just for his mother but for many others like myself, who as a psychiatrist can see the astonishing depth of his insights. He is perhaps one of the last psychoanalysts who can still see, conceptualize and write about psychoanalysis the way it was originally intended. As to why mothers feel bad about working when they have young children. I think there are different gratifications a woman gets from working and being in the hustle and bustle of the larger world and from playing with her child. If she is stay home mom she misses being part of the great world. If she works she misses playing with her child which is so pleasurable - just herself and her child. There is no way we can have everything. Of course one has to decide what kind of pleasure is more meaningful and then allot one's time proportionally. Some women rather not have children and get pleasure from life from the work world. Others want to devote their lives entirely to their children. Fotunately, today there is so much prosperity that a woman can reasonably do both. Dr. Dale Boesky is a genius. Not just for his mother but for many others like myself, who as a psychiatrist can see the astonishing depth of his insights. He is perhaps one of the last psychoanalysts who can still see, conceptualize and write about psychoanalysis the way it was originally intended.

As to why mothers feel bad about working when they have young children. I think there are different gratifications a woman gets from working and being in the hustle and bustle of the larger world and from playing with her child. If she is stay home mom she misses being part of the great world. If she works she misses playing with her child which is so pleasurable – just herself and her child. There is no way we can have everything. Of course one has to decide what kind of pleasure is more meaningful and then allot one’s time proportionally. Some women rather not have children and get pleasure from life from the work world. Others want to devote their lives entirely to their children. Fotunately, today there is so much prosperity that a woman can reasonably do both.

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