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April 2007

An article in the “Career Couch” column of yesterday’s New York Times gave some interesting advice to women looking to get back to their careers after taking time off to raise their children. The article, which read like the author, Eilene Zimmerman, took pitches from just about every career counselor out there to prove her point, offers some tips to moms wanting to return to work. Some quotes from the article:

The experts on steps moms can take to reenter the workforce and stay on top of skills:

Figure out what, exactly, you want to do. Start by writing down your goals, priorities, strenghts and weaknesses.
-  Steve McMahan, president of the Atlantic region for Kforce

Analyze every previous significant work and volunteer experience and break it down into the basic components of what each job entailed- the ones you liked and the ones you didn’t. Then you’ll see the opportunities.
- Carol Fishman Cohen, co-author of, “Back on the Career Track: A Guide for Stay-At-Home Moms who want to Return to Work

Do ‘anything that will show your employer you’ve kept up with developments in your field.
- Jo Bennett, a partner at Battalia Winston International

On building a resume:

You [still] have to address the gap in your work history, but do it in your cover letter and in the “personal” section… For example, if you can say, ‘increased ad sales in the elementary school address book from 25 percent over lasat year’ it shows you have the ability to sell ads.
- Allison O’Kelly, chief executive and founder of Mom Corps

These tips are all from smart people who have good advice.  In theory, if you do what these folks say, you should position yourself nicely to reenter the workforce.  That is, if we all lived on a planet called “Employers Get It,” which unfortunately, we don’t. 

Most of my friends who left their high-paying jobs to raise their kids would like to reenter the workforce at some point.  We discuss it at our play dates a lot.  But either the industry they worked in or the employer they worked for makes it almost prohibitive to do so. I haven’t seen a whole lot of “wow, this company is willing to take me back after being out of sales for 4 years.”  Even if they are running huge events and throwing massive luncheons for charity.  I mean, I see the value in doing these things, but I’m not sure today’s employer is ready to see the “ad sales in the elementary school address book” on a resume yet. I wouldn’t put it on my resume.

One employer, Lehman Bros. does get it, though.  A recent article in Workforce Management discussed a program Lehman Bros. created to reengage mothers they’ve either employed in the past or moms who have worked for other companies in the same industry.  I think it has to be a lot easier and more cost-effective for an employer to “on ramp” someone who’s worked at the organization previously than to “on ramp” a new hire totally new to the company.  Employers who take the time to develop such programs should see financial and cultural benefits from their efforts. Helping to “on ramp” moms should, in theory, be good for business.

But in my reading, I haven’t many other case studies like Lehman Bros. I’m left to think that they don’t really exist.  Or at least, they don’t exist in my circle of friends. Therefore, until I see more employers acting like Lehman Bros., I’m not getting off this ramp.  I don’t want to find a dead-end trying to get back on.

Postscript: Experts out there - you all have some great advice, so if you read this, can you give us some real-life examples of successful placements you’ve had for moms who are looking to reenter the workforce?  Or, readers, do you have some examples?  If I saw more successes, then maybe I’d be able to change my position just a bit. But I’m not ready to back down yet.

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Bloggy things I need to get off my chest

by selfmademom on April 29, 2007 · 7 comments

  1. I’m finding it difficult to write only about working mom-related things on this blog, so I think from time to time I’m going to have to throw in my random experiences as a mom. Hope that’s ok. No worries, my celebrity working mom bashing will continue.
  2. I can’t comment for sh**. So many of my wise blogger friends have tried to tell me what makes a “good” comment, but it’s not sinking in. Thoughts? Do all comments have to be good, anyhow? Can’t I suck once in awhile?
  3. Speaking of comments, spam comments on my blog are going through the roof! I used that WordPress plug in, but if I see one more slang for a you know what on my “Dashbord” I’m gonna freak.
  4. There have been many other more popular bloggers than I who’ve riffed on the keywords people use to find their site, but one I saw today was so funny, I had to chime in. Someone typed in “women wookies joke” and found my site. I know the post where I wrote the word wookie, but someone agree here, there’s nothin’ funny about a woman being compared to a wookie.  Ok, well maybe a little something, but not on my site. There’s something about keywords here that I’m just not getting.

I think that’s it for now. Thanks for listening.

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Saturday morning pick-me-up

by selfmademom on April 28, 2007 · 4 comments

coffee-cup.jpgI really wasn’t looking cute this morning when I decided to go for a walk around my neighborhood. I hadn’t washed my hair since Thursday morning, and the only outfit I could muster up early  were some old workout leggings and an adidas sweatshirt.  But the weather was nice so I figured it was a good opportunity to move my tush. Plus I’m always trying to figure out ways to kill the time before my son’s first nap.

After walking for a good 40 minutes (aren’t you proud?) I was in desperate need of some caffeine. My son was in desperate need to get out of his stroller. Enter Starbucks, a stone’s throw from my house (aren’t I lucky?) where I go every Saturday and Sunday morning to get my chai latte sugar rush. (I keep wondering when my teeth are going to rot out of my head.) My local Starbucks is typically filled with kids at all times on all days.  Saturday mornings, though, are like a Mommy and Me class on steroids, but with better music.

The perfect backdrop at my lame attempt to make a new mom friend. I usually don’t pay any attention to the madness at Starbucks. My mission is usually to get my tea and get out of there fast enough so my son doesn’t notice those little madeleine cookies that they put right next to the cash register close enough for any kid with halfway decent dexterity to grab and shove into his mouth so you have to buy them every time. Ok, maybe that’s just my kid.

But today I couldn’t help but notice a cute young woman in front of me in line. And she noticed me and my son, who was putting on quite a hello and goodbye show. I ordered my drink, paid and waited and waited for my tea.  We then started up a conversation. We were standing pretty close as to hear each other better. I think she initiated it, but I can’t quite recall.

“Hi, how old is your son?”
“Oh, he’s about 13 months.”
“Oh, I’ve got an 8-month-old in the car.”
“Boy or girl?”
“Boy”
“Oh, cute. Name?”
“C.”
“C? I haven’t heard that before.” (Doh! Great line, Sara)
“Yeah, well, I guess this is what we have to look forward to in a few months.”
“Yes, it’s so fun. It goes by so fast.” (Could I get any more cliche??)
“How long have you lived in Roscoe Village? This is our first summer.
“Oh, it’ll be 2 years in July, so I guess this is our third!”
“Oh, nice.”
“Yeah. Hey, do you go to the park at Belmont and Damen?”
“Yeah.”
“Well, it’s a great park, so maybe I’ll see you there.” (Was I supposed to ask for a number at this point?)
“Sounds good. My name is K.” (She tried to shake my hand but I was already holding a kid, madeline cookie and tea in my hands. Hello?)
“Sara. Nice to meet you. Have a good day.”

And then I remembered I hadn’t brushed my teeth yet. Shit.

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mailbox.jpgDear Chicago mail system,

You don’t have a great track record with delivering mail in a timely manner, and some of my friends have noticed that you’ve actually skipped their houses every once in awhile.  You bad boy, you! (You’re definitely a guy. Guys always forget to do things.) I know you’re probably trying to work out the kinks in your system and undoubtedly you’re busy.  But your lackadaisical behavior is now starting to interfere with my ability to maintain friendships with my new mom friends (NMFs, if you care).  And, well, you just don’t go there with a new mama.

See, it all dates back to a rather innocent event of my friend’s daughter’s first birthday party and a gift that was delivered there from yours truly.  As custom with my circle of friends, we write thank you notes to acknowledge receipt of the gift and to try to teach our youngsters manners.  We I look for the card in the mail.  I’m nosy, what can I say.  And I love kiddie stationary.  

Anyway, yesterday, two months after my friend’s party, it occurred to me that I didn’t get the note. I started to panic. And in my tizzy over the absent card, I began to ask myself these questions:

  • Did my friend not get the gift? (You can’t expect me to remember anything anymore)
  • Did I forget to include a card? (I have done that before)
  • Did my friend hate the gift so much that she could not bring herself to acknowledge that someone gave it to her?
  • Does my friend not like me so much as to not want to drop me a note in the mail?

Funny thing is my friend and I only live 4 blocks away from each other. She could have walked it over, I suppose, but when you’re a mom, it’s sometimes worth the 39 cents to have someone else do the dirty work for you. Don’t blame us moms for being lazy. We’re allowed to get away with it once in awhile.

I’m not saying my behavior was normal, but the erratic nature of your delivery put me into quite a frenzy. I even called up another NMF of mine to ask if she had received a note. She didn’t receive hers either (you messed up twice!) and a rampage ensued to try to figure out what happened.

Typically, I mail things of this nature from work because I really don’t trust your blue mailboxes that much.  But some of my friends stay at home, so they don’t have this option.  Don’t punish them because of the choices they make! (And don’t pin this mishap on their husbands either – they’re not big fans of carrying the load of envelopes to work. I’ve tried that before with birth announcements.)  

So my story does have a happy-ish ending, but that doesn’t mean I’m not still mad at you. After a few phone calls between us NMFs we cleared things up, but we were all left feeling a little embarassed and ashamed. No one wants their friend to think they didn’t send a thank you note.  So please, next time you’re delivering little blue and pink cards, try to remember not to lose them.  You’ll save a mom a lot of ass-ache.

Sincerely,

Self-Made Mom

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CEO of the home

by selfmademom on April 26, 2007 · 4 comments

Care to know how I got to the top of my post at my house? Here’s an excerpt from my online column running today:

I never thought I’d have the chance to be the head honcho so soon.

I’m still young in my career — and in age. It is only of late that I achieved middle management at work.

However, since I had my son last year, it seems I’ve taken on a new leadership role. I’m CEO of my house. This isn’t something I bargained for when I had my son. My domestic life had previously been very equitable. My husband and I divvied up duties such as grocery shopping, picking up the dry cleaning and cleaning up the house.

Then we had a child.

Ever since, I’ve been thrown into a leadership position I’m just not all that familiar with. When it comes to my son, I’m in charge. Whatever I say goes. I’m the chief, the woman at the helm. No one disagrees with my decisions — or if they do, they don’t dare say anything.

Click here to read the rest!

Also, it’s Take Your Child to Work Day and here are some interesting tips. If you’ve got the little one with you today, enjoy!  I’ve got seven more years until I can put junior to work.

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medela.jpgJenny G’s on the working mom quotable rampage again in the May issue of In Style. In her interview, the celebrity working mom comments about the ease of maintaining her breastfeeding routine of daughter Violet amidst a busy schedule.

‘that suprised me – how much I loved [nursing],’ she says, ‘and how effortless it has been to pump anywhere in the world: in the car on the way to the Oscars, in countless airplane bathrooms…. there’s always a sympathetic woman who will help you out.’

Ah, such is the life of a Pumping Princess. I’m guessing Jenny G doesn’t have to worry about remembering her pump parts, or pumping in public and getting harassed for it.  But she may have a point, the Medela Pump In Style would make a heck of a purse to take to a formal event.  Large shot glasses and an ice pack to keep my shrimp cocktail cold. Sweet.

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I know Google and Google knows me

April 24, 2007

If you’ve even paid half-attention to my blog in the past two days, you’d know that I was at Google Chicago today to sit on a “tech savvy mom panel” at event called “Mothers Know Tech.”  By the end of the very well-coordinated afternoon, I felt like I knew everything there was to know about mommy online behavior.  The trade [...]

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Google Event: Mother Approved Marketing Tools

April 24, 2007

Update: Here is a link to some of the information we learned today…   Are you all bored to tears yet? I’m not, but I’m sitting here live. Anyway, we just had a break with some fabulous food (no stale coffee and donuts here!) and we’re back to more fun stats about marketing to moms, and [...]

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Google event: Mother Knows Tech Discussion- some good facts for marketers

April 24, 2007

By the way- all the stuff I blog about and the presentations I reference will be available via a link after the conference.  I also have no clue if I’m doing this “live blogging” thing correctly, so sorry if this is really long and boring. And finally, I’m a crazy notetaker… I’ll try to edit. But I [...]

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Blogging “Live” from Google

April 24, 2007

 (2:15 pm Central) Here I am, sitting at the Google offices in downtown Chicago waiting patiently for the “Mothers Know Tech” conference to begin. I’m still not entirely sure why I’m here because all the other mommy bloggers and mommies here seem so much more in touch with the tech world than I, but so [...]

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