Comments on: Are SAHMs really making “mistakes”? http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/ Off-Ramped and Unbalanced Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:00:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Claudia http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-412 Claudia Tue, 09 Oct 2007 17:07:01 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-412 Your dad was so right and way ahead of his time. Add the increase in divorce rates and the fact that stay at home moms are not usually prepared financially, he proved his point. You are one of the lucky ones, thanks to him. I didn't have a clue when I quit my job to stay at home with my children. I wish I had known what I know now. http://www.divorceforstayathomemoms.com Your dad was so right and way ahead of his
time. Add the increase in divorce rates and
the fact that stay at home moms are not
usually prepared financially, he proved his
point. You are one of the lucky ones,
thanks to him. I didn’t have a clue when
I quit my job to stay at home with my
children. I wish I had known what I know now.
http://www.divorceforstayathomemoms.com

]]> By: Hold the bread, please » Self-Made Mom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-411 Hold the bread, please » Self-Made Mom Mon, 10 Sep 2007 01:45:59 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-411 [...] have the ambition or the drive to be good at my job.  I do.  It’s not that I want to opt-out or off-ramp or whatever silly buzzwords exist to define working motherhood.  I [...] [...] have the ambition or the drive to be good at my job.  I do.  It’s not that I want to opt-out or off-ramp or whatever silly buzzwords exist to define working motherhood.  I [...]

]]> By: Anne Keller http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-410 Anne Keller Tue, 24 Apr 2007 15:18:43 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-410 Ladies, your man can leave at any time. Take responsibility for yourself. Don't show up on MY doorstep in 25 years if your man is gone and you have no retirement savings. I won't help. Sorry. Ladies, your man can leave at any time. Take responsibility for yourself. Don’t show up on MY doorstep in 25 years if your man is gone and you have no retirement savings. I won’t help. Sorry.

]]> By: Sabrina http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-401 Sabrina Sun, 15 Apr 2007 02:56:13 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-401 The reasons why Bennetts got "backlash" was because she is an elitist in an ivy tower sticking her nose into personal business! What is it with people who think have to be like street ministers and "save" people who didn't ask for nor want to be saved. The ULTIMATE feminine mistake in my opinion is making highly personal life altering decisions based on the need to be validated by other women/peers or out of fears of "what if." Nothing is guaranteed in this life...and women who stay home with their children should not have guilt trips thrown at them any more than women who work outside the home should. I wish folks would just let people make the choices that is best for them and their families...instead of waving some boogeyman at them. FTR I was a SAHM for 5 years of a 9 year marriage. I've been the workforce for 20 years and I'm none the worse for wear...and I was blessed to be able to be home with my daughter and form a strong bond that lasts to this day...something that may not have happened if I put the job first. The reasons why Bennetts got “backlash” was because she is an elitist in an ivy tower sticking her nose into personal business! What is it with people who think have to be like street ministers and “save” people who didn’t ask for nor want to be saved. The ULTIMATE feminine mistake in my opinion is making highly personal life altering decisions based on the need to be validated by other women/peers or out of fears of “what if.” Nothing is guaranteed in this life…and women who stay home with their children should not have guilt trips thrown at them any more than women who work outside the home should. I wish folks would just let people make the choices that is best for them and their families…instead of waving some boogeyman at them. FTR I was a SAHM for 5 years of a 9 year marriage. I’ve been the workforce for 20 years and I’m none the worse for wear…and I was blessed to be able to be home with my daughter and form a strong bond that lasts to this day…something that may not have happened if I put the job first.

]]> By: Even Angelina Jolie can’t make up her mind » Self-Made Mom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-409 Even Angelina Jolie can’t make up her mind » Self-Made Mom Fri, 13 Apr 2007 13:19:11 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-409 [...] 1) Did Angie recently read “The Feminine Mistake“? [...] [...] 1) Did Angie recently read “The Feminine Mistake“? [...]

]]> By: The “Weeds” working mom conundrum » Self-Made Mom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-408 The “Weeds” working mom conundrum » Self-Made Mom Mon, 09 Apr 2007 21:32:24 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-408 [...] “Weeds” is like the stoner version of the ”Feminine Mistake,” but it does raise an interesting dilemma for would-be single moms. To what lengths would you go to to maintain your family’s status if something god forbid happened to the main breadwinner (a.k.a. dad)? [...] [...] “Weeds” is like the stoner version of the ”Feminine Mistake,” but it does raise an interesting dilemma for would-be single moms. To what lengths would you go to to maintain your family’s status if something god forbid happened to the main breadwinner (a.k.a. dad)? [...]

]]> By: selfmademom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-407 selfmademom Tue, 03 Apr 2007 01:31:08 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-407 Debra, that is great to know. Thank you for sharing. Debra, that is great to know. Thank you for sharing.

]]> By: Debra http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-406 Debra Tue, 03 Apr 2007 01:18:57 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-406 That is sad for B. How would it feel to be lied to for so long by your husband? As far as Bennetts’ theory, sounds like a gross generalization to me. I feel compelled to post for my own mom on this topic(because she is not exactly blogging on her dial-up AOL account). She always tells me to keep a perspective on staying home with young kids - "it's only a few years of your entire life, so enjoy it for all it's worth," she says. She stayed at home with my brother and I for about 7 years, and then proceeded to go back to work and build a fabulous and successful career in a brand new field. When I think of that, it reminds me that no choice is forever, it's about what works for you now. That is sad for B. How would it feel to be lied to for so long by your husband? As far as Bennetts’ theory, sounds like a gross generalization to me. I feel compelled to post for my own mom on this topic(because she is not exactly blogging on her dial-up AOL account). She always tells me to keep a perspective on staying home with young kids – “it’s only a few years of your entire life, so enjoy it for all it’s worth,” she says. She stayed at home with my brother and I for about 7 years, and then proceeded to go back to work and build a fabulous and successful career in a brand new field. When I think of that, it reminds me that no choice is forever, it’s about what works for you now.

]]> By: Busy Mom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-405 Busy Mom Mon, 02 Apr 2007 17:28:53 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-405 How sad for B. I do think people should keep in mind what they like to do/can do in case it's needed. You never know when there'll be tough financial times. How sad for B.

I do think people should keep in mind what they like to do/can do in case it’s needed. You never know when there’ll be tough financial times.

]]> By: making services » Are SAHMs really making “mistakes”? http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/comment-page-1/#comment-404 making services » Are SAHMs really making “mistakes”? Mon, 02 Apr 2007 15:36:26 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/04/01/are-sahms-really-making-mistakes/#comment-404 [...] Maki wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptMy dad used to say to me when I was younger, “Sara, you should always have a career so you have something to fall back on, even if you’re married.” Basically, he put the fear of god in me that if I didn’t work and have my own career I … [...] [...] Maki wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptMy dad used to say to me when I was younger, “Sara, you should always have a career so you have something to fall back on, even if you’re married.” Basically, he put the fear of god in me that if I didn’t work and have my own career I … [...]

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