I think I got dumped by a single friend of mine. She’s a close friend from college who I haven’t talked to recently (ok, it’s been like 3 months.) We have very different schedules, and well, I’m not that great at keeping in touch. (I admit it.) But when major social events occur, a party at my house, a group dinner, I’ve tried to include her in the plans. And I thought she’d do the same. But I heard recently that she had a barbeque at her house, and well, my husband and I weren’t invited. I don’t know the details of the party – maybe it was just for single people, maybe it was a small gathering – but something gnawed at me that I got let go as a friend.
I can try to keep calling and e-mailing to salvage our friendship, but I’m wondering now if it’s too late to get her back. I thought getting dumped might stop after I got married, but I guess there are a lot of variations to the dating game.
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The whole getting-dumped-by-long-time-friends things stinks. I’m one who keeps in touch, even if
it’s just E-mail. But my feelings get really hurt when I feel like I’ve been dumped. Like an
invite, an E-mail or a note are such hard things? What’s with that?
I feel your pain! Although I have not been officially dumped (at least to my knowledge) I have such a hard time keeping up with my now newly married friends (as opposed to me, married 7 years with 2 kids). Maybe you’ll be friends again when she has kids
That’s what I keep telling myself!
Been there, been dumped. I had a group of friends when I was single that are still single today. Once I had children they dropped me. It was pretty sad. Just because I become a mother doesn’t mean i’m not fun any more. It doesn’t mean that I no longer love Indie-Films and music.
Ahh, the bitter break-up. I had a friend from high school (male…gay) who just wouldn’t keep in touch with me. We got together every once in awhile when I visited my home town, but other than that, it was like pulling teeth. I finally confronted him and told him that it hurt my feelings that he couldn’t e-mail me or call every once in awhile. He apologized and did keep in touch…for awhile. Now I don’t even know where he lives. Go figure. Bad habits are hard to break.
Try being the only one from your group who is married, and then has kids! Not fun at all, lets just say that. But after a few years things are slowly starting to change now…my friends are getting married and I few are starting to think about having kids. Should be interesting over the next while. I might have a social life again
>I thought getting dumped might stop after I got married, but I guess there are a lot of variations to the dating game.
Meeting the parents of my kids’ friends (say, birthday party drop-offs and such) is a lot like dating – specifically, first dates. And sometimes, BAD first dates.
When I was single, my husband and I were avid triathletes/marathoner and most of our friends were, too. After marriage, this continued. Once I became preggers and couldn’t train and compete, my husband stopped as well in sympathy and after kids we would rather spend time with them than on a 6-hour bike ride. I realized how little I really had in common with these people. And how BORING they were (and we must have been, too) talking about training, racing, protein powders, Gu, etc. all the time. Some of them have moved into my world, but many have not and 10 years later are STILL at it. But then again, we’re boring to them, talking about playgrounds and preschools and kindergarten and nannies. Call it even. I’d rather be in my shoes than theirs, and still manage to compete every once in a while. Maybe your friend just finds she has less in common with you now and doesn’t have the guts to tell you (which hurts).