Comments on: What? You want my opinion? You sure? http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/ Off-Ramped and Unbalanced Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:00:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Alex Elliot http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-980 Alex Elliot Mon, 10 Sep 2007 00:49:14 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-980 That was a great post. Yesterday I was talking with a friend of mine about how there seems to be this assumption that women fit into different molds. She has two kids and works full time so therefore her experiences must be the same as all other moms of two who work full time. Just like since I'm a SAHM of two kids, my experiences must be the same. In reality that's complete BS because everyone's experiences are so different. Many many times I don't feel connected to other SAHM moms at all. I also refused to let my 4 year old do any activities outside of preschool and playgroup last year because it was too much for him. I definitely was the odd woman out. That was a great post. Yesterday I was talking with a friend of mine about how there seems to be this assumption that women fit into different molds. She has two kids and works full time so therefore her experiences must be the same as all other moms of two who work full time. Just like since I’m a SAHM of two kids, my experiences must be the same. In reality that’s complete BS because everyone’s experiences are so different. Many many times I don’t feel connected to other SAHM moms at all. I also refused to let my 4 year old do any activities outside of preschool and playgroup last year because it was too much for him. I definitely was the odd woman out.

]]> By: GHD http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-985 GHD Sat, 08 Sep 2007 15:38:18 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-985 That's a very good approach, but I bet those SAHMs were a bit envious of you too. A few weeks ago an acquaintance who "has a job outside the home" not in an office, but in a real live CSI lab was talking about recent lay-offs at work and I cheerfully (and mindlessly) piped in, "Hay, maybe you can work part time!" GAH! was that unsolicited advice or what? I couldn't believe I said that to her, especially after her face fell and demeanor changed. I could tell she was feeling the same you way you did, except outnumbered, judged, and out of place in a room full of SAHM. It's such a personal choice. That’s a very good approach, but I bet those SAHMs were a bit envious of you too.

A few weeks ago an acquaintance who “has a job outside the home” not in an office, but in a real live CSI lab was talking about recent lay-offs at work and I cheerfully (and mindlessly) piped in, “Hay, maybe you can work part time!”

GAH! was that unsolicited advice or what? I couldn’t believe I said that to her, especially after her face fell and demeanor changed. I could tell she was feeling the same you way you did, except outnumbered, judged, and out of place in a room full of SAHM.

It’s such a personal choice.

]]> By: Audrey - Pinks & Blues http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-984 Audrey - Pinks & Blues Sat, 08 Sep 2007 01:44:03 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-984 What a fantastic post! I get to work everyday with my mom and my sister, we work at my mom's house... so I don't necessarily have to be strapped to an office all day from 9-5pm... but I have to leave the kids and I hate it. I live in one of those town's in RI where a majority of the moms don't work. And I work b/c I love what I do, so it's not the you must work mantra... but I truly love it. I hate meeting with the moms at playgrounds b/c they are all talking about things that I don't get to be too involved in while working. And the worst is when they call to invite me to things when they know I'm working and the comment always is "OH... do you have to work today?" That's my personal favorite! - Audrey What a fantastic post!
I get to work everyday with my mom and my sister, we work at my mom’s house… so I don’t necessarily have to be strapped to an office all day from 9-5pm… but I have to leave the kids and I hate it. I live in one of those town’s in RI where a majority of the moms don’t work. And I work b/c I love what I do, so it’s not the you must work mantra… but I truly love it. I hate meeting with the moms at playgrounds b/c they are all talking about things that I don’t get to be too involved in while working. And the worst is when they call to invite me to things when they know I’m working and the comment always is “OH… do you have to work today?” That’s my personal favorite!
- Audrey

]]> By: High Heeled Mama http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-983 High Heeled Mama Sat, 08 Sep 2007 01:01:33 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-983 As women, we get so many unsolicited comments/judgements/opinions on this topic that I think we automatically assume we SHOULD be asking for advice or seeking affirmation like Jamie said. If only we could all be so confident all the time...I might be able to get over that one-piece/tankini problem, not to mention the to work or not to work question (if only Shakespeare was a 20th century mom). As women, we get so many unsolicited comments/judgements/opinions on this topic that I think we automatically assume we SHOULD be asking for advice or seeking affirmation like Jamie said. If only we could all be so confident all the time…I might be able to get over that one-piece/tankini problem, not to mention the to work or not to work question (if only Shakespeare was a 20th century mom).

]]> By: Jamie http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-982 Jamie Fri, 07 Sep 2007 23:30:27 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-982 Would you be my working mom cyborg on days I don't feel like logging in from home? ;) Seriously, though, I think people just need some affirmation or perhaps approval that what they are doing is "the right thing." But what's best for my family (I telecommute half my 32-hour work week and am a proponent of daycare) might not be best for yours. Would you be my working mom cyborg on days I don’t feel like logging in from home? ;)

Seriously, though, I think people just need some affirmation or perhaps approval that what they are doing is “the right thing.” But what’s best for my family (I telecommute half my 32-hour work week and am a proponent of daycare) might not be best for yours.

]]> By: Jonathon Morgan http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/comment-page-1/#comment-981 Jonathon Morgan Fri, 07 Sep 2007 22:41:13 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/07/what-you-want-my-opinion-you-sure/#comment-981 That's exceptional restraint. I have a bad habit of giving my opinion, whenever someone asks, whether it's a good idea or not. That’s exceptional restraint. I have a bad habit of giving my opinion, whenever someone asks, whether it’s a good idea or not.

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