Comments on: Hold the bread, please http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/ Off-Ramped and Unbalanced Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:03:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Veronica http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-995 Veronica Sun, 16 Sep 2007 06:04:07 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-995 Being perfect has never been a part of the feminist creed as much as we all may think it is. You do your part, when you can, and hopefully we win out in the end. Perhaps at this time, your job in the revolution is to be the best mom you can be. Who else is going to raise the best lil male feminist out there? I've said it before to many people, the Goddess gave me a daughter for a reason. She gave you a son for many reasons, one of them is that you can raise a boy the right way and not think he owns them just cause he buys them a drink. Being perfect has never been a part of the feminist creed as much as we all may think it is. You do your part, when you can, and hopefully we win out in the end. Perhaps at this time, your job in the revolution is to be the best mom you can be. Who else is going to raise the best lil male feminist out there?

I’ve said it before to many people, the Goddess gave me a daughter for a reason. She gave you a son for many reasons, one of them is that you can raise a boy the right way and not think he owns them just cause he buys them a drink.

]]> By: Emily http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-990 Emily Wed, 12 Sep 2007 02:29:32 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-990 I love the bread reference. Even though I stay at home with my daughter, I still respect working mothers. I truly don't know how you do it all. I feel like there aren't enough hours in my day to get housework done, and I'm here! But just because I'm home doesn't mean I am not tied up with keeping my 11-month-old occupied. I think the whole stay at home thing will get easier the older she gets. By then it will be time for #2! Continue to be proud of what you bring home. There are many varieties of "bread," if you get my drift. I love the bread reference. Even though I stay at home with my daughter, I still respect working mothers. I truly don’t know how you do it all. I feel like there aren’t enough hours in my day to get housework done, and I’m here! But just because I’m home doesn’t mean I am not tied up with keeping my 11-month-old occupied. I think the whole stay at home thing will get easier the older she gets. By then it will be time for #2! Continue to be proud of what you bring home. There are many varieties of “bread,” if you get my drift.

]]> By: April http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-989 April Tue, 11 Sep 2007 18:21:02 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-989 I like this post a lot. The feminists before us worked to give us a choice and options to do what is best for our families. You exemplify that choice. I have been the primary breadwinner for five years and for the first time we are experiencing a likely change in the roles. My husband finished his MS and has made a career change. I am suddenly feeling a little disconcerted about the change. Not that I liked carrying it all on my shoulders and worrying "what if". I should be comforted by having the influx of cash, but in a way it is almost bittersweet. (Control freak? Me?) The possibility of switching to part time is nearly within my grasp as long as I can wrap my head around it. I like this post a lot. The feminists before us worked to give us a choice and options to do what is best for our families. You exemplify that choice.

I have been the primary breadwinner for five years and for the first time we are experiencing a likely change in the roles. My husband finished his MS and has made a career change. I am suddenly feeling a little disconcerted about the change. Not that I liked carrying it all on my shoulders and worrying “what if”. I should be comforted by having the influx of cash, but in a way it is almost bittersweet. (Control freak? Me?) The possibility of switching to part time is nearly within my grasp as long as I can wrap my head around it.

]]> By: Shari http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-988 Shari Tue, 11 Sep 2007 18:09:30 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-988 I too live pretty obliviously thanks to my husband but when I turn it around and look at it the other way he gets to live oblivious to a lot of the things I do for our home and children and I get to have a job I love, love, love. I'm even working on a blog posting about thanking spouses for their role, whatever that may be. I just thanked him for doing his job the other day. He thought I was silly at the time, but I thought it was necessary. I too live pretty obliviously thanks to my husband but when I turn it around and look at it the other way he gets to live oblivious to a lot of the things I do for our home and children and I get to have a job I love, love, love. I’m even working on a blog posting about thanking spouses for their role, whatever that may be. I just thanked him for doing his job the other day. He thought I was silly at the time, but I thought it was necessary.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-986 Shannon Mon, 10 Sep 2007 22:50:48 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-986 I also think that the NEW feminism is about admitting that even if you can have it all, you don't necessarily want to. I also think that the NEW feminism is about admitting that even if you can have it all, you don’t necessarily want to.

]]> By: shannanb http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-994 shannanb Mon, 10 Sep 2007 21:10:39 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-994 Here, here! Here, here!

]]> By: Mary Anne Mohanraj http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-987 Mary Anne Mohanraj Mon, 10 Sep 2007 17:50:36 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-987 Feminism is about choices, right? It has to be a real choice, though, with truly possible options. So as long as you're confident that if you *did* want to work full-time, that your husband would support you in your attempts, and you'd both work to find a good solution for your child-care, even if it might mean that your husband was the one who stayed home and did primary childcare, then I think you can relax and be happy with the choices you've made. Feminism is about choices, right? It has to be a real choice, though, with truly possible options.

So as long as you’re confident that if you *did* want to work full-time, that your husband would support you in your attempts, and you’d both work to find a good solution for your child-care, even if it might mean that your husband was the one who stayed home and did primary childcare, then I think you can relax and be happy with the choices you’ve made.

]]> By: Shelli http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-993 Shelli Mon, 10 Sep 2007 14:06:29 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-993 Well said. It's easy to lose yourself in those labels. Sometimes I feel like I am in the minority when it comes to Moms, because of the choices my hubby and I have made to continue on with our dual-income (dual breadwinners?) situation because I like and WANT to work. It's part of me. I think it just boils down to what works for your family and YOU. And if you find the balance, that is heaven :) Well said. It’s easy to lose yourself in those labels. Sometimes I feel like I am in the minority when it comes to Moms, because of the choices my hubby and I have made to continue on with our dual-income (dual breadwinners?) situation because I like and WANT to work. It’s part of me.

I think it just boils down to what works for your family and YOU. And if you find the balance, that is heaven :)

]]> By: GHD http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-991 GHD Mon, 10 Sep 2007 04:17:24 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-991 I agree with PunditMom all that way. It also sounds like you and your husband are a great example of how modern marriage and parenthood require teamwork. It's wonderful that you two are so supportive of one another. :-) I agree with PunditMom all that way. It also sounds like you and your husband are a great example of how modern marriage and parenthood require teamwork. It’s wonderful that you two are so supportive of one another. :-)

]]> By: PunditMom http://www.selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/comment-page-1/#comment-992 PunditMom Mon, 10 Sep 2007 02:18:55 +0000 http://selfmademom.net/2007/09/09/hold-the-bread-please/#comment-992 For whatever it's worth, I think you're a great example of what feminism is! :) You've made choices that make you happy and work for you and your family. And you're a darn good writer, too! For whatever it’s worth, I think you’re a great example of what feminism is! :)
You’ve made choices that make you happy and work for you and your family. And you’re
a darn good writer, too!

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