What do you do when you’ve laid (or is it lied?) around the house all day sick, stay up too late catching up on e-mails and overdue work?
You go on the local parenting website and see if there are any good nannies to steal interview.
It was then that I found yet another message board posting for a nanny I interviewed recently. I liked her enough to ask her back to meet my husband (second date!), but was cancelled on before we could meet. It turns out she didn’t like that I called her reference back for the second time to ask more follow up questions. (Apparently old boss and nanny chatted about such conversation.) And then she accused me of not believing her boss in the first place. She was rude and spiteful in her remarks.
So here’s my dilemma: do I post such feedback on the parents’ site for all to see? Or do I keep my nasty little secret to myself?
I love don’t like to gossip, but I want to help others who may seek out this bee-yatch for employment. I mean, I think there’s a reason she still doesn’t have a job.
And you thought I could stick to my plan for change for more than a day? (Muwhahaaaa)
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ehhhhh…I wouldn’t post feedback. A professional reputation is a very delicate thing. Especially when it’s one’s livelihood. My vote: bygones. ps people suck
Agreed. Let it go. You two didn’t fit, so maybe she will fit with someone else and you likewise.
I so want to tell you to go on there and nasty it up, but everyone else is right. It’s a delicate situation and her livelihood.
Argh, people really suck. I’m sorry, but as someone who has worked in staffing for a long time it burns me that she would do that. She is interviewing to take care of your CHILD… Digging up as much info as possible is crucial. You child is so much more than even livelihood.
I love that you wanted to “out” her, though! I would have felt the same way. A great nanny has to be out there just searching for your front door!
I wouldn’t post your ACTUAL thoughts, but instead the facts as you told us: you called her reference, then called her reference back with follow-up questions. You could even throw in a “sorry you were uncomfortable with my due diligence.” (Or not. I’m chicken and would go the bygones route.)
The point is, you’d be letting other parents know she’s uncomfortable with parents who dig too much. On top of her telling everyone HERSELF that she craps on prospective employers on message boards!
I’d out her. State the facts. But then again, I’m a bitch and you’re not, so don’t.
But see, this is why I quit my mother’s club. People only posted positive feedback or references. When others would try to give an alternative opinion, the supporters would come out of the woodwork. I always took that negative feedback more seriously because it takes a lot more guts to write it.
I’m late to the post, but what I’ve seen some folks do in this case is post a subtle comment that says “I have had experiences with this Nanny, some positive and some negative. Please feel free to give me a call for more info” blah blah. So at least they’ve planted a seed of doubt without fulling outing the beeyotch.
Keep us posted.
Speak up and share the facts.