Comments on: Relax, don’t do it

By: Sasha

Sasha — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 22:02:22 +0000

After nearly 18 months of being a SAHM, I still feel like there is something more that I should be doing. I think it is just something that the modern world has convinced us that we should be worried about. I hear you on wishing to have something to talk about though. Number of dirty nappies and the latest tongue-poking antics just don’t seem like worthy dinner-table conversation.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:43:24 +0000

I vote for giving yourself a little more time to figure it out.

One month off is really nothing, so let yourself unwind before thrusting yourself out there again.

And if you are really itching to do something, I can outsource some of my job over to you. Just say the words, and a whole slew of work emails can come your way.

By: Amy@UWM

Amy@UWM — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:47:04 +0000

You’re totally in an adjustment phase. You also need to acknowledge that you are doing important and meaningful work by being with your son (even if it involves OC watching. Heck, we all need a break sometimes). Give yourself a little more time and then try some things (writing, volunteering, etc.). It’ll take you some time to figure out what you like to do and what you can manage alongside your other important job. You’re still young…you’ve got plenty of time to change the world.

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 01:08:31 +0000

I can completely relate. I do often feel like there is something bigger than me that I should be involved with–Habitat for Humanity, Cares for Kids International volunteer program in our area, feeding the homeless, teaching music lessons, etc. I am not exactly sure what it is, but it is always there. Unfortunately, until my husband’s time is freed up, I am kind of “stuck” at home. I don’t mind (most of the time), but a few hours off here and there would be nice. In reality, an acknowledgement of “thank you” for always being at home raising our daughter would be enough for me, but I’m not holding me breath. My husband is the king of appreciating something without EVER telling someone he appreciates it. Sigh.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 21:16:56 +0000

I’m betting this is an adjustment period for you. I have a feeling that if I suddenly had a chance to stay home, even though I think in theory I’d be running around trying to get everything done, I’d actually have to spend a few days vegging out just to recover and get used to the new reality.

Let yourself have this adjustment down-time, if it’s not too hard to feel guilty about it.