So we’ve made the decision not to find out what we’re having. We didn’t find out during my first pregnancy, and we thought keeping the gender a mystery would make things a little more exciting during delivery this time around. Since I have a boy already, I think I’m having another boy. As my friend said, “It’s what I know.” Plus, I feel boy vibes.
I’m trying not to care too much about my unborn child’s sex. I know boys, I love having a boy and having another would be easy and a lot cheaper. Plus, all that matters is a healthy, normal and happy baby, right?
Not from the way my family and friends are talking. Nearly the first thing everyone says to me after I tell them I’m pregnant is,
Oh, I hope you’re having a girl!
I’m never sure how to respond to such statements. Don’t get me wrong – I’ve already started looking longingly at all the pink and purple in the stores, thinking about life with princesses and ponies, and braiding hair before the first day of school. Everyone keeps telling me that they think I’m having a girl. (People, this doesn’t help).  But I keep reminding myself that it doesn’t matter – if all I get is more trucks, tanks, and messy curls, I will be just fine.
It’s amazing how much emphasis people put on gender when your first child is a boy. The woman at the store telling me that boys are great and they “love their mommies,” but how her friend had two boys and a girl and was “so excited.” The friends who say they thought they were having boys all along but were so “surprised and estatic” when they had girls. They all assume that having two boys is the worst case scenario.
I’m excited to meet the little gomper who’s making me so queasy. It may turn out that I’ll be surprised and bring home a bundle of joy in pink. But I may not and instead be buying blue and camouflage forever and ever. My son will have a brother, and I’ll be the happiest mom on earth.
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Now for your read-along enjoyment, here’s a recap of my first trimester symptoms. What do you think it is?
- Night nausea starting at 4 pm and lasting ALL MISERABLE NIGHT LONG
- Craving for fruit and anything in vinegar and oil
- Weight gain of 7 pounds (too hard to tell where it’s settling for now)
- Fetal heart rate of 153
- Skin broken out on face and back
Say girl and you’re dead to me.
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Well, I’ve had two girls and none of those symptoms during either of my pregnancies. And both of my pregnancies were identical. But you never know. You could end up having a boy who likes pink, purple and princesses!
Didn’t know you were expecting. Congratulations!
You can imagine the comments I get being pregnant for the fourth time and mom to all boys. And I’ll just say that every single one of my pregnancies has been different with different symptoms and ways I’ve carried them and everything. I will say that even though they were SO SURE this one is a girl, I will be most surprised if it ISN’T a boy!
Steph
Ask your little guy. I read somewhere (and for the life of me can’t remember where, I’m sorry!) that all those old wive’s tales don’t really predict the gender all that accurately (no big surprise there). The only thing “they” studied that “worked” – with a 70% success rate – was asking an older sibling (when there was one) what they thought it was. He may be the ticket to your predictions.
I only have girls, and I can tell you that braiding hair in the morning? Not as much fun as I had thought it’d be. There’s generally a lot of sniffling and whining involved. bleh. .
I do know though, that as much as I’d have liked to have a boy the second time around, having 2 of the same gender is infintely easier. I love the fact that my daughters have someone interested in the same things to play with.
Your post reminds me a lot of me. First child a boy (didn’t find out the gender). Second child born 2 years 8 months later (March 23… when is your due date?), didn’t find out the gender and had a girl. I wanted a girl the first time around. Then with the second changed my mind decided I loved having a boy and wanted another (but deep in my brain I was confident I was having a girl), plus boys were what I knew to that point. Sure enough, I got my girl.
So all that said I get boy vibes for you. But I think my only correct guess EVER, was with my daughter. My recent post on this topic: http://www.tri-cityherald.com/943/story/284212.html
Sara — CONGRATS! I say…sorry…girl! Sounds IDENTICAL to how I felt when preggy with Charlotte. And, although it was two years ago that I was pregnant, the timing is identical too: I was due just about when you are due with your #2!
Even though you said, “Don’t say it”, with those symptoms and cravings, it is most definitely a girl. I had all of those with A…except for the queasiness.
First of all a very belated CONGRATS!
And I’m just going to remain silent since I have two girls…uh that’s all.
I know it’s all a myth but it’s fun to hear ya’lls guesses! thanks for playing with me…
I’m a mom of 6 sons. I LOVE it!!! Our youngest is 2 years old. When I was pregnant with him EVERYONE hoped I was having a girl…except me. I was fine either way, and, like you, I knew another son would be easier and cheaper. We knew the sex ahead of time and I was excited when we found out he’s a boy. He’s the light of my life (just like all the rest of them). I know you’ll be happy either way…and CONGRATULATIONS!!
Congrats again! I think having the surprise is fun and exciting. Whatever the gender you and your family will be overjoyed but I think having the gender be a mystery makes everything a bit more exciting! I’ve talked to many people who couldn’t stand not being able to decorate appropriately and that drove them crazy. Who knows!?? Best, Punditdad!
Fascinating, SMM. Clearly I need to remind you that the FIRST WORDS out of your mouth when I told you that my second was going to be another girl, you responded with “So are you going to keep trying until you have a boy?”
Mothers of only girls find themselves being faced with constant bombardment of how they should continue to go at it until their family name can be carried on in the name of a son.
I think you’re having a girl…..
Congratulations!! I’m so sorry I haven’t dropped by until now.
I only had two of those symptoms with one of my pregnancies (don’t remember any of the heart rates) – craving for fruit and major breakouts – and that was with Tacy. So I’d have to go with girl.
Congrats!!!
And my mother swears that if you break out btwn 12-15 weeks that you are having a boy.
Something about the surge of testerone causes break outs.
like how totally mispelled testosterone? classic
Congratulations! I know for sure what you are having – JK
My pregnancies seemed different to me,
and I had two boys. Craving for fruit and sugar and breaking out – but then that happens to me whether
or not I’m pregnant. I was like you – there are plusses either way. Although one of the reasons I didn’t
find out was I was worried I’d go crazy buying “girl” baby things when really, they don’t need
anything different
That happened to me the entire time I was pregnant with Brady. Everyone kept saying y wanted me to have a girl. After I had him someone actually had the nerve to ask if I was going to have another since I didn’t get the girl.
I couldn’t believe it.
When we were expecting our twin girls, the first ultrasound tech said, “One is a girl and I think the other one is to0.” After that all the techs said the same thing, “One is a girl. What did they tell you about twin B last time?” None of the techs would commit to the second twin’s sex. Even if you woke up one day and decided to find out, sometimes the information is wrong. Enjoy the journey. Whether you havea girl or a boy, there’s a beautiful baby at the end.
Congratulations! I missed that you were pregnant. Shows how behind I am in my blog reading! Well, I have two boys but we also have a ton of Disney Princess stuff and dress up clothes.
That whole “Oh, I hope it’s a girl!” chorus is exactly why I am finding out this time around (and the last two times around…) People around me have been so convinced it’s a girl with each of my last three pregnancies, that I didn’t want to find myself buying into the hype for 40 weeks and then being disappointed when the baby was there and, uh, had a penis. I love being a mom to boys and if I end up with boy #5 this time around it would be fabulous–but there is a little part of me that’s always wanted a girl and I like to just eliminate that possibility as soon as I can
I totally admire people who can keep it a surprise and actually ENJOY the surprise, though!
Bean meaning to email you — Congrats!!! The 2 boys were both surprises, but with the 3rd child I chose to know because I had to do amnio due to my mature age, and since that is a much more of an accurate test, we decided to know.
Sharing some stupid comments I got when I was pregnant on my 3rd baby was:
“So, you must be hoping for a girl?”
“I hope you finally feel how it is to have a girl”
“What are you going to do if you have a 3rd boy?”
D’oh! I honestly still get upset when I think about it.
But the worst of all was when I just delivered my second boy and I was speaking to a used-to-be girlfriend of mine who swears up and down that girls are so much better than boys.
She sighed deeply with a I-feel-sorry-for-you “oh” reaction. Needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore…Sad thing too though is she had her 2nd child and hoped for another girl, but had a boy. Heard she was disappointed…sad