Comments on: Young moms are people too

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:34:20 +0000

I had mine at 36 & 37. The older moms are just too tired to talk. No code. I’ve seen pictures from when my kids were in pre-school so I know I was there, but it’s all a blur. Much more awake and alive now.

By: Shari Schmidt

Shari Schmidt — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 21:30:07 +0000

Trust me when I tell you that those of us “older” moms wished we had our children when we were your age. No matter what anyone says!

By: KittyTime

KittyTime — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:05:40 +0000

I just want to know how your kid comes home clean from preschool?
And KT apparently wasn’t counted as a friend in your list of friends……..
what gives, SMM? : (

By: Kim/hormone-colored days

Kim/hormone-colored days — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 03:51:04 +0000

Don’t worry, a few months with that second child will age you years

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 02:48:54 +0000

Ignoring your main points for a moment, I have to comment on the fact that you think you are so young to have been married at 26 and first kid at 28. Come on over one state to Indiana for a little while and discover that you are not only “normal” but maybe even “old” (gasp) for getting married. Crazy, huh? It is so weird to me how much longer people wait to get married in metropolitan areas. I assume that overall it has to do with the fact that people in metropolitan areas are more career-focused. This is not to say that people in non-metropolitan areas are not – just in a different way since major corporate America isn’t the heart of our area. Am I completely off here? Despite where you live, your age, your financial status, whatever…we are all mothers and you are right, that should bond us in ways that nothing else can.

By: Shannanb aka Mommy Bits

Shannanb aka Mommy Bits — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 02:08:21 +0000

I haven’t run into this myself. Like you, I mine early – first at 26, second at 29. I feel it’s a blessing to be a younger mother but would never, not talk with someone because of age. That is a shame. Those older moms are missing out.

By: Amanda a.k.a. The Working Momma

Amanda a.k.a. The Working Momma — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 14:34:11 +0000

I totally agree with you on this one. I have experienced the same thing dropping my son off at daycare and at his classmates’ birthday parties. I am always the odd one out for being so young. This doesn’t just happen at his school though, it happens on our street. We live in an upper-middle-class neighborhood where the majority of the people are on their 2nd or 3rd homes. This is our 1st and our 1st child. We are young at barelyly 27 and almost 36. Our problem is not just our age but our income. That sounds very trite to say but it is the truth. Both of us are chemical engineers with my husband having his PhD as well. We weren’t lucky, we worked our a**es off to get where we are. I have to accept that we are the exception and not the rule when it comes to our situation and that maybe location has something to do with why I deal with the same problem as you since I live in the suburbs and not the “hip” areas of town.

By: Adventures In Babywearing

Adventures In Babywearing — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 13:15:32 +0000

I agree- I think it IS the great equalizer but unfortunately some (both young and old) are too self conscious to consider that…

Steph

By: Marijean

Marijean — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 13:06:24 +0000

My whole mom life has been the same way — I married at 18, had my first at 19 and understood when those fellow moms were, in some cases, 20 years older than I was. I thought things would be different when I had my daughter at 26 but I’m still the youngest mom in my “peer” group. You get used to it and ultimately make friends with the kind of people who don’t get hung up on such a silly thing as age and life choices. We’re all different and life is too short to be clique-y.

By: Jennu

Jennu — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 12:30:41 +0000

1–Don’t worry about mingling with with everyone. As long as not clique-y and mean, it’s not that big a deal.
2–Speaking as a 37-year-old who’s planning on having kid #1 when I’m 38, I can tell you that the older moms had to listen to people warning them about their biological clock and the statistics on increased risk on autism, etc the longer they wait. (I get this from my friends and relatives MY AGE, not the old biddies who’d you’d expect to tut tut over women these days waiting so long, blah, blah.) The thing is, I didn’t meet my husband until my early-mid 30s and I was 36 when we got married. I didn’t WAIT to be a mom, it just happened that I didn’t meet the right guy in my 20s. So not only did was I made to feel like a loser for being unattached then, but now I have one of my oldest friends telling me that wanting to be married for a little while before having a kid means that I’m recklessly increasing the chances of inflicting a severe disability on the kid. So yeah, the older moms may resent you for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Don’t sweat it.