Here’s where the story ends. And another begins.

by selfmademom on November 30, 2008 · 36 comments

There are so many ways I could tell you all about what’s happened in the past few weeks, but it’s easier for me at this point to say it, get it over with, and move on.

I lost the baby two weeks ago in my fifth month.

That’s all I can or want to say about the whole, horrible experience. 

Really, it is.

Writing about it will only dredge up painful memories and right now what I need to do is move forward and not look back. Thanks for understanding.

In fact, in an effort to spruce up my lacksidasical blogging efforts and create a diversion for myself I’m going to change the focus of my blog a smidge.

Amidst our country’s worst recession, my husband and I feel we have no choice but to alter our life and cutback and conserve where we can.  Now if you know me at all, you may laugh at the notion, but even my spendthrift self needs to learn how to save money.

I’m going to join the frugalista movement and save and budget like no self-respecting spoiled mom who drives a Lexus has ever done before.

Really, I am.

I even gave up my favorite Dermalogica face wash last week for an Aveeno one.  It wasn’t so bad. 

Ebay, craigslist, coupon clipping here I come.  Hope I can entertain you all until I get back on that pregnancy bandwagon or fall off the conservation one.

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vtjill November 30, 2008 at 3:41 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.

PunditMom November 30, 2008 at 9:11 pm

xoxoxoxoxo

Melanie @ MelADramatic Mommy November 30, 2008 at 11:05 pm

I am SO sorry for the loss.

Jamie November 30, 2008 at 11:23 pm

I am so incredibly sorry to read your news but glad to see you posting.

Take care of yourself.

p.s. Frugalista? Now that is an awesome term.

Busy Mom November 30, 2008 at 11:58 pm

Oh, I am so sorry.

That seems inadequate, but please know I’m thinking of you.

Marketing Mommy December 1, 2008 at 9:06 am

I was so excited to see a post appear from you on my Reader and so sad to read it.

Looking forward to your adventures in frugal living. Will you be canning your own vegetables this summer?

caitlin December 1, 2008 at 11:28 am

You are frequently in my thoughts and I am looking forward to reading what you have to say (as I could learn a thing or two about being frugal myself).

AmyBow December 1, 2008 at 11:57 am

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have always enjoyed reading self-made mom and look forward to hearing all about your new adventures.

High Heeled Mama December 1, 2008 at 1:34 pm

Hugs to you.

Robyn December 1, 2008 at 2:01 pm

Love you, love you, love you.

You and I can drool over the new Tory Burch shoes together.

In our house, we have gone to a cash-only policy. If we can’t buy it with cash, we ain’t buying it. Considering I only ever have like $8 cash in my wallet, it’s hard. Oh so hard.

Shelli December 1, 2008 at 3:29 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

Groovy Mom December 1, 2008 at 10:01 pm

it is my first time visiting. So sorry about your baby. But best wishes on your movement towards being more frugal.

Cam December 2, 2008 at 10:34 am

I’m so incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. I’ve always enjoyed reading your blog and look forward to the new story that’s beginning.

elaina December 2, 2008 at 10:38 am

My heart goes out to you.

Kate December 2, 2008 at 2:15 pm

I don’t even know you, and certainly don’t know what to say, but I have heard others say
before that when it comes to grieving, not saying anything is the worst one can do.
So, that is why I am commenting only to say that my heart goes out to you, and I am very sorry
for your loss.

Emily December 2, 2008 at 7:53 pm

Please stay as healthy as you can in mind, body, and spirit. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I can only imagine how much you must be hurting right now, but please know we all have appreciated your words of wisdom and wit over the years. Those words will return eventually, but for now, surround yourself with the people and things you love.

Meagan Francis December 4, 2008 at 10:58 am

Oh, I am so sorry. This post brought tears to my eyes. I can’t imagine what you’re going through.

But, I am looking forward to reading your frugalista posts. :)

Tamara Snyder December 4, 2008 at 5:08 pm

I’ve been thinking about you. I am so sorry and hope you (and S and J) are doing all right.

Speaking of excellent new fashion terms, here’s another one I came across the other day: “Recessionista!” Hey, Loehmann’s is a happy place these days.

Beth B. December 4, 2008 at 7:47 pm

I’m so sorry for your loss.

April December 5, 2008 at 2:16 pm

I am so sorry for your loss and wishing you the best in moving forward.

Like you, I need to jump on the frugal train. Maybe now that I got a new Coach purse I can do that. ;-)

Jenny December 6, 2008 at 7:31 pm

I’m so sorry about your baby. I can relate, the same thing happen to me in my 5th month. Horrible doesn’t even begin to describe it. It will be 6 years ago for me this January, it will always make me sad but it does get better. Give yourself time, cliche but true.

kim/hormone-colored days December 8, 2008 at 10:44 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

Donnie December 9, 2008 at 1:24 pm

I am so sorry to read about your loss. My heart goes out to you. I’m sure it must have been hard to write even what you did about it, but I know your words will help others in the same position.

admin December 9, 2008 at 1:34 pm

Thanks to all of you for your comments. You’re the best!

J. Fergie December 10, 2008 at 10:35 am

so, so sorry for your loss.

*hugs*

Adventures In Babywearing December 11, 2008 at 7:45 am

I feel awful that I am just now responding. I am so sorry, Sarah.

Steph

Natalie (BSM Media) December 11, 2008 at 12:27 pm

Hi Sara, I just wanted to say that I am SO SORRY for your loss. Please know you are in our thoughts! All the best, Natalie (from BSM Media)

To Think Is To Create December 11, 2008 at 1:31 pm

Oh I just now saw this…so very sorry. I hope for you peace and healing and time…

Hugs,
`Arianne

Upstatemom December 11, 2008 at 5:53 pm

I am so sorry for this horrible loss.

Nataly December 16, 2008 at 9:36 am

I’m so sorry….

I LOVE the frugalista angle!

Caroline December 31, 2008 at 6:02 am

I’m a lurker on this blog, have never commented. Just checked in to see if you had updated lately and wanted to say I’m so so so sorry for your loss, although, as other commenters have said, those words don’t seem adequate. It seems like you have a great support system. Hang in there.

Lisa February 8, 2009 at 11:57 pm

I’m so sorry for your incredible loss. I’m glad to see you posting again. I’ll be sending prayers and good karma your way…

Parentopia Devra February 15, 2009 at 11:24 pm

So tonight I decide to catch up on some reading. Been traveling a lot ,etc. Nothing like stopping by and realizing a lot has happened. If you wander back to this post I’ll be here sitting quietly. And if you need a shiva-type moment? I’m here with an apple struedel and a craptastic amount of brownies.

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