Comments on: For those of you following the renewed mommy wars debate… http://www.selfmademom.net/2009/06/18/for-those-of-you-following-the-renewed-mommy-wars-debate/ Off-Ramped and Unbalanced Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:00:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Bitsy Pieces http://www.selfmademom.net/2009/06/18/for-those-of-you-following-the-renewed-mommy-wars-debate/comment-page-1/#comment-3668 Bitsy Pieces Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:45:18 +0000 http://www.selfmademom.net/?p=932#comment-3668 Hm. Well, I used to make a decent (part-time) income from freelance writing. But work has dried up lately... so much that I can barely call myself a writer. And I do miss the income. But I don't want to miss Baby's next coo. It's a dilemma, for sure. I think moms who get upset and criticize other moms about decisions are really insecure with their own decisions. In an attempt to justify our own choices--especially the choices with which we may be really be uncomfortable, though we'd never admit to it--we criticize anyone who has made the opposite choice. The other day in the supermarket, as I was packing groceries into my cloth shopping bags, I heard someone say, "I don't care if it makes me a bad person. I'm just not spending money on reusable shopping bags." I hadn't judged that person. Quite honestly, I don't care a bit what kind of bags she uses. But just seeing me with those bags obviously made her feel defensive. I think moms can be the same way about their choices in life. Hm. Well, I used to make a decent (part-time) income from freelance writing. But work has dried up lately… so much that I can barely call myself a writer. And I do miss the income. But I don’t want to miss Baby’s next coo. It’s a dilemma, for sure.

I think moms who get upset and criticize other moms about decisions are really insecure with their own decisions. In an attempt to justify our own choices–especially the choices with which we may be really be uncomfortable, though we’d never admit to it–we criticize anyone who has made the opposite choice.

The other day in the supermarket, as I was packing groceries into my cloth shopping bags, I heard someone say, “I don’t care if it makes me a bad person. I’m just not spending money on reusable shopping bags.”

I hadn’t judged that person. Quite honestly, I don’t care a bit what kind of bags she uses. But just seeing me with those bags obviously made her feel defensive.

I think moms can be the same way about their choices in life.

]]> By: Shelli http://www.selfmademom.net/2009/06/18/for-those-of-you-following-the-renewed-mommy-wars-debate/comment-page-1/#comment-3667 Shelli Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:05:30 +0000 http://www.selfmademom.net/?p=932#comment-3667 Wow, I had no idea this firestorm started. Seeing as I am a WAHM on some days and a WOHM other days, I guess I'll have to fight it out with myself. Nah, that's too exhausting. Wow, I had no idea this firestorm started. Seeing as I am a WAHM on some days and a WOHM other days, I guess I’ll have to fight it out with myself.

Nah, that’s too exhausting.

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