I’m not a hysteric about making my house an organic haven, or making sure my kid can speak Tibetan by age 4, or worrying about the effects of Dora the Explorer’s shrill voice on my son’s eardrums.
But lately, I have taken to trying to eradicate certain ingredients from our food, like high fructose corn syryp, and after talking to my new BFF, Dr. Harvey Karp, making an effort to rid our lives as best as possible of endocrine disrupting chemicals.
What are EDCs, you ask? Good question. I wrote all about it today on Babble in an interview with the doc.
And he put the fear of freaking g-d in me about all the toxins in all the products we use on our bodies and in our house. Like phthalates in beauty products, insulating agents, chemicals in carpets and flooring. It’s not just the chemicals alone that are scary. It’s the research being done about how these chemicals compound in our bodies and may cause autism in our children. (The Ecology Center published a report yesterday showing test results on various household items in a similar vein. You can find their database of tested products on their site, healthystuff.org).
We all know BPA is the devil, but that’s just the one that gets all the buzz.
Luckily, though, there are things we can do. We can use “green cleaners.” (For a good list go to: Healthy Child Healthy World.) We can use natural beauty products on ourselves and kids (I listed a smattering of recommended products on my article.) We can buy organic foods.
We can vigilant without draping ourselves in hemp all day and living in a tent. And best, we can talk about it, create more awareness and try to get companies to get the toxins out of their products. (And try to get Sigg to give us a freaking explanation for what’s going on with their BPA-laced bottles!)
If you guys have any tips about this topic, I’d love to hear it as well.
I have this thing about my hair. I always change my mind about what kind of style I want. Currently, I’m in the midst of wanting my hair to be super long.
I actually once had really long hair. With bangs! (collective gasp begin now)
I’m fully blaming “new mom brain” for this look.
A few cuts later and it was the Katie Holmes bob-o-rama of 2007
I swear I didn’t mean for this to happen.
Which brings me to 2009 or, Operation: Growing It Out. Otherwise known as a painful ordeal where I partially revist “The Rachel” cut. Not on purpose.
Had I known I was going to go back in time with my hairstyle I WOULD HAVE NEVER CUT MY HAIR!
Of course, when I found out this week that Katie went from bob to bombshell overnight with magical hair extensions I went loony. Now I only have one mission in mind: Must Look Like Holmes Again.
It’s just not fair that us frugal peons have to do the grow out the old-fashioned way.
I know PunditMom and ChickyChickyBaby are also leading the quest for long hair. Are you? Let’s all share photos of our progress. We can live in grow-out misery together.
Until then, I’m wearing my hair back and in headbands daily.
I hate being naked. I’m a very modest person, so I rarely let my bare-self show. (Unless I’m in the dressing room at Loehmann’s and I’m scoring a great deal.) Same way with my nails. I hate having bare nails.
I take that back. I LOATHE having bare nails. I’m a staunch advocate of the polished nail. Mademoiselle is my middle name, dontcha know?
So for the last few many years, I’ve indulged myself with weekly manicures. I remember looking forward to Friday, my self-proclaimed manicure day, where I could sit at the nail salon, gossip with the nail tech and read trashy magazines. The US Weekly mag I read always had the most oil stains on it, but I didn’t care. I was content perusing the “Just Like Us” section in a vibrating spa chair, even if Jennifer Garner was smudged out.
And my nails used to get compliments. Who knew I have “long nail beds”? Or nice white tips? I took pleasure in knowing that a little bit of dough got me a long way with that cashier at Starbucks or a colleague in a meeting where I was taking notes. I could be Wicked without anyone knowing just how innocent I really was. That’s the beauty of a nice manicure. It provides a good cover. My nails would shine even when I didn’t. And people notice.
Then I had a child. I know it sounds so cliche, but I think those folks are right. Having a baby changes everything. I swore up and down that when I had my son I would let nothing get in the way of my nail upkeep. But something’s happened over the past few months. I’m going naked. It’s impossible to stay properly clothed as the mother of a 16-month-old.
At one point, I pretended that I could keep up my polished exterior. When my son was a bit younger, I tried haplessly to wear trendy dark colors. This resulted in numerous expletives flowing from my mouth every time I saw a chip. There’s one thing I hate more than bare nails. Feeling like you’ve thrown $15 down the drain because you’ve smudged your nail giving your son a bath.
I’ve found that going around bare does have its benefits. You can wash the dishes without gloves on, garden freely, and pull apart sippy cup parts like a bat out of hell. You can open up toys without pretending to your child that those twisty tie thingy-s are really a part of the toy. (I mean, those twisty tie thingy-s are KILLER on a fresh manicure.) You can type on your keyboard recklessly. You can open up cans and bottles. You can pry open the seal of that fresh tube of Aquaphor. It’s quite liberating, really.
Then again, there are disadvantages to a non-manicured nail. There’s the hanging cuticle problem, which typically requires the unsanitary, but necessary extracting of, which draws blood in the office, which results in you running screaming to your group assistant to find you some freaking Band-Aids (!!) so you don’t have to try to type on your keyboard with paper towel over your finger.
Needing to get nailed.
Also, unmanicured nails give off this terrible impression that you actually care about housework. I think there’s a direct correlation between how dirty your house is with how bad your nails look. Meaning, if you care about keeping your nails polished, you’ll let the dust build up a little. I hate dusting too.
The good news is that for the next week, I’ll be away from reality, “working from home” (more on that later) with no business people to see and no in-person meetings to be had. I can let myself go for a little. But believe you me, as soon as I get back I’ll be calling up the nail salon. I can only walk around naked for so long.
I’ve often complained to my coworkers about the dim lighting in our communal bathroom at the office. The flourescent bulbs seem to be from an era past, casting my beautiful spring whites in nasty shades of yellow. My skin, which is already sallow to begin with, seemed ever more orange in the atmosphere of the bathroom. Which is why I was shocked to walk into work this morning and find that these tawny bulbs have been replaced with brighter alternatives.
Unfortunately, this means now I can see how bad I look by the end of the day.
I’ve ranted before about how difficult it is to get ready in the morning for work when you have a baby to contend with. But now, I fear, my new foe is the brilliant bulb giving off its ray of fake sunshine in the loo. It’s bringing out the very worst in my appearance.
See, 8 months into this working mom thing, I’ve got my morning routine down pat. As long as I can distract my son with an episode of Noddy or whatever is on at the early hour I get ready, I can apply my foundation semi-evenly and smear concealer onto my chin, where it seems I am reliving my adolescent youth. A stroke of blush, some mascara, (permanent eyeliner if I am lucky), finishing powder and I am typically good to go. Fixing up my face is the last step of my morning routine and when I am finished, I usually do not take another look in the mirror. There’s no time for hiding that one last freckle or wrinkle. I’ve got to get to work.
And when I’m at work, I’m usually too busy or too lazy to check on my appearance.
But by the time 3 p.m rolls around and I leisurely stroll to the bathroom to stretch my legs I am horrified at what I see. My mascara is smudged, the pubescent acne spot (ok, zit!) is erupting and I have a sheen about me that reminds me why I never opted for the “dewy” look in the ’90s. Yes, I could bring my powder compact to work. Yes, I could reapply concealer at the end of the day. But somehow, I always forget to do this.
At least there’s a bright side. My son. Thankfully, he doesn’t care how shiny, or matte or smudged I look at the end of day. As long as I’m home in time to put him to bed, he glows like the brightest bulb there ever was. And that’s all that really matters, isn’t it?
Tags: working mom, office rants, getting ready for work
Mother’s Day is less than two weeks away, and if you’re like me – a little bit bossy and love getting gifts – you’re all over the internet searching for the perfect gift for yourself.  I soak up the glory of Mother’s Day. The day created to celebrate the fact that I suffered through the aches and pains of pregnancy and labor to produce just about the cutest thing that ever was (according to my MIL.) I’ve only had one Mother’s Day so far, but I already know I like to celebrate the holiday my way- no surprises. It’s the one holiday that I can control what I want to do and of course, what I want to receive.  Save the surprises for my birthday or Hannukah or something. On Mother’s Day I live by the motto: “Requests are best.”  To make it easier for you to request the perfect gift, I’ve created a list of Mother’s Day gift ideas. All you have to do now is send the link to your husband and poke and nag him about it later tonight. Or maybe it’s just me that will do that.
Mother’s Day the Gadget Way:Â
If you’re a gadget guru, here are some gift ideas for you (Techmamas inspired me, what can I say?):
A bluetooth headset - a safe mama is a happy mama so get a headset for when you drive, or push your stroller around town, or if you just want to look really cool and important on a play date. I’m partial to the Motorola H700 because it comes in pink.- A new digital camera – cameras are faster and smaller now than ever, and that’s why you need a new one. The Canon Exilim EX-S600 is small, and fast. And it has a special setting for “kids” so you won’t miss junior shoving birthday cake in his mouth.
- Video baby monitors – the perfect gift for a Type-A mom. Want to see what junior is up to in bed? View him on your fancy video monitor. I’m partial to the Summer brand because it’s portable so I can take it with me. Everywhere.
A new watch – if your kid’s anything like mine, he eats everything you own. So don’t worry about him wrecking your jewelry and ask for a Casio Baby G watch. It won’t break and it has like 52 settings and alarms and time zones and makes jingles that will send your little one into a laughing fit. Plus it comes in pink so it can match your headset.
Mother’s Day the Cool Mom Way:
I may be controlling, but I never said I was “cool.” If you want to be a hip mama, request a gift from the Cool Mom Picks Mother’s Day Gift Guide. They’ve got great gift ideas over there for all kinds of mamas that support many mom-run businesses. So go on, shoo. Remember, I’m not that cool, but they are.
Mother’s Day the Self-Made Mom Way:
I’ve got one Mother’s Day under my belt so I don’t have a lot of personal experience, but here’s what I requested and received last year:
Helen Ficalora Alpha Charm Necklace - I’m a huge fan of these uber-light and fun necklaces. I ordered one with the initial of my son on it, so he’s close to me whether I’m with him or not. They also have really cute mom charms and sayings, so if you’re not feeling it for junior, you can feel it for yourself. That’s what this day’s all about, right?
And here’s what I’m getting this year. My $5 Target diaper bag has had it’s day. Do you like?
The Storksak Emily Diaper Bag
P.S. If you like to give rather than receive, then go over to Work It, Mom! and submit a tribute to a working mom that you admire. I was feeling a bit giving myself after writing this post so I published a tribute to one of my working mom BFFs. Best part? Work It, Mom is partnering with MomsRising.org in this endeavour and they’re going to be making a donation in honor of all the Tributes they receive. The more Tributes they get, the more that gets donated. Sometimes even I give a little 
Tags: mothers day, mothers day gift ideas, Cool Mom Picks, Techmamas, Storksak, Helen Ficalora, Summer Video Monitors, Work It, Mom!
So my mom has been in town staying with us since last Friday because with all the traveling I’ve been doing, we needed a little help around the house with junior.  When she visits (which is always welcomed, but is not infrequent), the conversation typically begins with, “oh, junior got so big!” and then inevitably turns to, “I’ve just started this new [fill in the blank] diet, can’t you tell?”
I usually can’t tell the difference – my mom always looks the same to me – and that’s a good thing. But as a new mom, I can say without a doubt, the topic of losing weight post-baby is always top of mind. Now, I must admit, I got lucky in the genetic lottery. I gained a whopping 45 pounds during my pregnancy and have shed nearly all of it. But it was not without hard work. The hard work of taking care of my baby.
At first, my mom was a non-believer of my lose-weight strategy. “You eat too much sugar. You eat too many carbs. You need to eat breakfast every morning.” (Actually, the truth is she suggests you eat the same breakfast every morning of egg whites on oatmeal with soy milk. Yuck, I’d rather down 6 oz. of formula.)
The reality is, from what I’ve found, having a baby and eating are mutually exclusive. There is no time to actually do both. Or do both well.Â
A typical day of meals for me when I’m home on my days off (this doesn’t count when I go to work, because I do eat there) is this:
- Breakfast:
- Dragging junior to Starbucks for a Chai Tea Latte breakfast of champions
- Eating the Cheerios off the floor that junior discards while playing with Baby Tad
- Lunch:
- Leftover mac and cheese from our lunch date
- Remnants of Veggie Booty, Veggie Sausage, Veggie Corn Dog, Veggie anything
- Dinner: (here’s where I spoil myself)
- A whole mini pizza
- A bowl of cereal because I’m too tired to deal with dinner
- Haribo gummi bears (where I get my fruit for the day)
This leaves my mother in a state of constant “I must cook for you guys” anguish (it doesn’t help that she’s also Jewish, which means of course that she’s neurotic.) When she comes to stay with us, she’s constantly cooking and finds time to have 3 square meals a day. And she’s always horrified about what we eat (what’s wrong with “toasted cheese”?) Thing is, we’re usually around when she’s here to pitch in with child care; she has the time to cook AND eat.  So when I left her alone for 3 days this past week, I put her to the test. I tested her to actually find time to eat – or better yet – cook meals. Here’s how it went, according to my mom:
- Breakfast:
- Oatmeal and egg white breakfast – “I ate it at noon. But by then, it was lunch so I scarfed down baby graham crackers with peanut butter to fill the void.”
- Lunch:
- Snack:
- “I have to have my snack!” (Yes, snack time deserves an exclamation point!!) “I tried to put junior in the Exersaucer with a biscuit so I could dig into an apple, but he managed to smear the biscuit on the Exersaucer and the floor, rendering it inedible and I was worried the house would be too messy when you came home, so I cleaned up instead of eating.” (Yes, I run a tight ship here.)
- Dinner:
- “It was nice out so I managed to walk to Whole Foods. I ate dinner, finally.” But I challenge her – “Mom, it was food prepared by someone else, so, does it count?”
My point of all this? It’s hard to eat while chasing after a baby.  And guess how many pounds she’s lost since Friday? Enough to make a difference. Weight Watchers, watch out.Â
 Tags: diet, losing weight after baby, mom diet tips
