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What do cool aunts and brain color have in common?

by selfmademom on February 2, 2010 · 0 comments

They’re both topics I wrote about in the February issue of Chicago Parent. Thanks to Melanie and Sheila for making my job easy!

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The Tourist in All of Us (Me)

by selfmademom on December 22, 2009 · 6 comments

I hate doing “touristy” things… especially in my adopted hometown of Chicago. I try to avoid crowds like the plague (except if I’m trying to score a really great deal on December 26… you know I like to shop), and since I don’t celebrate Christmas I can’t help but find that this time of year gets overly bogged down with jingly songs on the radio and altogether too many bad drivers heading downtown to do all those touristy things I try to avoid.

However, since we’re a little Chicago-bound this year because of the newborn, (Although I’m totally regretting getting sucked into flu scare so much to cancel any thought of traveling until the kid is like 15 or something.) I figure I have to bite the bullet and do a few things for my older son that would otherwise send shivers down my lululemon-clad (yes, still wearing it all) body.

Like eating at Ed Debevic’s tonight. Where I found myself honestly saying, “Honey, please eat your chicken finger. Please.” Like it was some sort of vegan tofu patty chock-full of vitamins. I figured it was better than the fries and rice krispie treat presented on the side of it. I even saw some meat in there.

Or, graciously accepting my friend Kim’s offer to go to the top of the tallest building in the Western Hemisphere because I’m not afraid of heights or anything and I thought the little man would enjoy eating a cookie 103 floors up. I was right. And I was so proud he spotted our health club from the top of the Willis (Sears!) Tower. He we is are seriously sheltered.

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Look, mommy! The eliptical!

But in all honesty, when you have the time, are a little bored, and have friends that will motivate you, being all touristy in your hometown city can be rather exciting. I even have grand plans to take the kids to the Modern Wing of the Art Institute next week. It’ll make me feel a tad better about having worn a paper hat all night.

Happy Holidays to all!

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Some Firsts

by selfmademom on December 5, 2009 · 3 comments

My first night out with the ladies since having #2 consisted of a few more firsts:

  • The first time I used a breast pump in public. Well, if public is considered in my husband’s car while parked on Belmont. That’s public enough for me. He kept psyching me out that everyone walking out of Potbelly was looking at me. Needless to say, I will not be repeating that first again any time soon.
  • The first time I showed up at an event where I was a guest of main attraction. My name looks good in lights, er, on a printed program. (You can see the photo story here, hopefully the video soon, too!)
  • The first time I read something I wrote to a public audience. Will probably be the last, but I’m glad at least a few people I know laughed. (Thanks to momtrolfreak for the photo.)

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The first time I put on real jeans since giving birth.

  • The first time I actually felt like a legit writer. Among already established writers. In a book that I’m proud of and think is absolutely hilarious. (Hint, hint buy it!)

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This post is brought to you by SponsHer (TM)

by selfmademom on July 26, 2009 · 9 comments

I’ve never been on The Price is Right or Wheel of Fortune, but after my whirlwind experience at BlogHer, I think I’ve had enough “brought to you by…” to last me a lifetime. Last time I went to BlogHer, there were sponsors and swag to be found, but this time around it felt more like a game show than a conference.

Fortunately, there’s only so much swag a pregnant achy back can lug around, so I mostly ignored all the “paid for,” “sponsored by,” and “here here take my business card and my giveaway from my sponsor,” chatter.  Of course, like she said, not all bloggers are like that, and not all parts of the conference were like that. And the time I spent away from the Expo Hall in the hallway outside of the actual sessions with my blog BFFs and at the two parties I went to made all the crazy sponsorship-advertisement-self-promotion hell disappear like all my business cards did in those giveaway bowls. (I didn’t say I didn’t want to get some free shit.)

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I even shared some of my free shit with her, Marketing Mommy (R). But I kept the Kodak thing-y. Cause I got there first, ya know.

And of course BlogHer wouldn’t be BlogHer if there wasn’t some controversy over something. Put thousands of women together and the claws come out. This year, it was bringing babies to parties, bars, events, sessions, what have you. Of course, the only baby I brought was the one that was pressing on my bladder the whole time and well, I don’t think it bothered anyone except the hotel bathroom which I visited too many times to count.

Speaking of people, because I was a lame-ass attendee who couldn’t drink and a D-List blogger (don’t worry kids, I haven’t forgotten about you), there were so many people I wanted to talk to but didn’t get a chance to and those I got to talk to but not for enough time. (Wow, that’s a lot of linking for a D-lister.)

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If this woman, A Hen and Two Chicks (c) can put up with my bathroom habits, I can put up with her yummy baby.

Ok, now, back to the swag and all the crap I tried to avoid but nonetheless acquired in less than 24 hours of schmoozing and not boozing at SponsHer. Like back in ‘07, I set out not to accumulate things I didn’t need, but somehow I ended up with two huge vinyl bags of stuff that was mostly for girls. I left too early to donate it to charity like she suggested, so it ended up in the wondering hands of a three-year-old who thinks there are actually presents sitting in such bags that he’s actually going to like and use. Oh, how naive he is. If I was richer, I’d give it away to the D-listers, but really, I’ll end up losing my savings in postage fees.

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The swag's so good, I haven't even unpacked it yet.

But I’m not down on SponsHer. I get why they need the sponsors, I can see why some events didn’t want babies, and as a former event planner, I know how hard it is to pull something like this off. Plus, I heard the keynote was kick-ass and I’m kicking myself for missing it. Maybe next year I’ll skip the sessions, the swag and just hang out in the lobby the whole time. And call it BlogHer once again.

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#mom

by selfmademom on May 17, 2009 · 9 comments

It’s hard enough to keep up with my kid, my house, my hair, my grocery list, twitter/ facebook/ blog/ articles/ f’ing around on the internet, without trying to figure out exactly how to maximize and make relevant twitter/ facebook/ blog/ articles/ internet f’ing around.

And what I mean is I’m having a bit of a mom-life crisis. I can’t figure out where I’m supposed to fit in in the world of moms/ marketers/ writers/ bloggers/ friends.

I’m so not a #mom. I can’t seem to find a good hashtag for myself.

I’ve turned down a lot of PR and product opportunities by my own choice, so I’ll never be one a Frigidaire Mom or a mom who went on a cool Disney trip. That’s cool, I love all the people who write me and include me, but I don’t need or want for much so I typically say no.  That means I’ll probably never use the #I’mcoolenoughtogetfreestuff moniker.

I used to feel a part of the internet group of working moms, but no more.  Now I’m an off-ramped mom, stay-at-home mom, spoiled mom, frugal mom, neurotic mom. Is there a hashtag yet for #cantfindalabelmom?

It’s hard enough to be a parent without having someone label you. Only to feel like you don’t live up to the labels.  In my past lives I’ve always been labeled something. High school was “Most Gullible” (I’m not joking.) College I was in a popular sorority, although I never felt I fit into the blonde-haired, blue-eyed mold of other members. Post-college, I did the “Murray Hill” in NYC thing and was a “dot-comer.” #boyIusedtobereallylame

More labels ensued when I left New York. I didn’t do the MBA thing but was an IMC’er instead. I married young, had a kid and moved to a yuppie-ish neighborhood. I went back to work, I started a blog, I quit my job, bought a hybrid SUV. #youknowhowthestorygoes

Now, I’m enjoying my SAHM status, but I don’t want to be lumped into #soccermoms. Neither my kid nor I really like soccer anyway. I don’t want to have a 9-5 job right now, but I’m not sure my pithy freelance writing assignments qualify me to be a WAHM. #mommywarsrearitsuglyhead

Marketers, writers, relatives and friends always want to label us. We all label ourselves as well – just look at all of our blog names. But even my own blog label and tagline doesn’t mean I’ve found my niche. It doesn’t mean I necessarily need the niche, but sometimes it’d be nice to #findtheperfectfit.

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Miracle on Ice

by selfmademom on February 1, 2009 · 0 comments

I always thought Disney on Ice was just for girls.  Twinkling lights, skating princesses, fairy dust.  Please.  But when I was offered tickets to the troupe’s show in Chicago from the lovely folks at Feld Entertainment, I just couldn’t say no.  Princesses and all.

So we invited a little girl friend of my son’s and checked out the show yesterday at the United Center.  And you know what? Even though there was a pre-show princess exhibit inhabited with replicas of Belle and Cinderella, and every girl I saw was dressed up as Ariel, I have to say the show was fit for kids of every size. And gender.

It also helped that we sat front row.

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We were so close I could almost touch Goofy’s ass.  Not that I wanted to or anything.

Plus, because the show veered more towards the Princess theme, I didn’t have to get suckered into buying any of those $20 glow wands which were all pink and stuff. 

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On the other hand, my friend got suckered into the purchase.

We all had so much fun that by the end of the show, my son knew the names of at least two of the princesses we saw perform.  Here’s to more tutus and translucent sparkly wings in our future.

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trust me, I watch too much TV. Trust me.

February 1, 2009

It’s January, and that means all my tv shows are back on the air with new episodes.  Right now I’ve got a heavy television load to bear.  I’m in serial drama hell and I can’t recuse myself from all the new shows of LOST, Damages, Nip/Tuck and Grey’s Anatomy. These four shows alone are eating [...]

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Things I don’t expect to see while on vacation

April 7, 2008

A snowstorm in April:

This is not what I call “spring skiing.”
A random product I reviewed a long time ago (so long that I can’t even find it in my archives) staring at me from the bar where I was enjoying a drink called, “The Geisha.”

To my knowledge, Gloves in a Bottle is NOT a key [...]

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Where I’ve been, where I’m going

January 23, 2008

Hi! It’s me again. From the other side of motherhood.  The stay-at-home side.  Actually, staying at home hasn’t been all that realistic since I stopped working last week.  A visit to the family in Michigan, a mother-in-law visiting to take care of Junior this week, really makes me feel like a lady who lunches as opposed to a [...]

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Dispensing tech advice. Who, me?

November 7, 2007

Getting dressed up and going to work occasionally has its privileges.  Like today, for instance.  I was able to wear my favorite new sweater dress and boots (it’s finally dipped below 50 degrees in Chicago, yay!), and could easily justify sneaking away for a few to attend a mom blogger event.  Add to it that I was able [...]

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